For ye suffer, if a man bring you into bondage, if a man devour you, if a man take of you, if a man exalt himself, if a man smite you on the face. 2 Corinthians 11: 20
Some people know what buttons to push to initiate a confrontation. They’re born instigators and have learned how to focus attention on themselves by antagonizing others. There are also individuals who can manipulate situations so that we always end up feeling like the guilty party.
For instance, your friend shows up late once again. What do you do? You really want an explanation or an apology. Instead, he arrives with excuses. However, his carefully selected phrases somehow lead you to feel as if it’s your fault. As he continues to steer the conversation away from the issue, there never seems to be a chance to address it. He’s cleverly diverted your attention once again. In the end, he continues to show up late, while you stew in silence or give up entirely.
It’s time to cut the marionette strings. It’s time to be free. When we know who we are in Christ and refuse to worry about other people’s approval, there is very little that can get past us.
So, don’t throw up your hands in defeat because you think you’ll be in bondage forever. Allow God to remove the oppressive need for approval and help you take responsibility for your own behaviour.